Sunday, October 5, 2014

Clique

As we grow up we start to mature and our views on certain things begin to change. When I was in high school, it seemed as though popularity was the most important thing. Now that I’m out of high school, it is not important what so ever. I was always afraid I wouldn’t fit in or doing something would eliminate my chances from ever being “cool.” I was never part of the “popular group,” so it did keep me out of the spot light, but I did always wonder how it would feel to be on the inside of the popularity clique.
Now that I am older, my opinion on being popular has changed so much. Thinking back, I wonder why it was such a big deal for so many people, at one point including myself. Almost all the people we went to school with move on with their lives and hardly anyone is remembered for being popular in high school. Honestly, I feel like a few of the popular people from my high school days were mean. They would make people feel bad about themselves only to make them feel better. Don’t get me wrong there were some people that were super nice, but it seemed as though popularity changed some other people.

Thinking back at it, I’m happy that I never became one of them because I always stayed myself and never changed into someone I wasn’t and never belittled someone to make them feel terrible. I’m glad my main focus was school and although I wanted to be a part of the popularity clique, being who I was then got me to where I am today. The thought of knowing that I was always nice to people in high school, even if they were mean or nice to me doesn’t leave me feeling any guilt. In the end of high school, all that matters is Graduating, the great memories, and the people that truly were my friends from the start.  

13 comments:

  1. I never understood why so many people tried to be popular either. I agree with you that some of them are just mean. I'm happy that you stayed yourself instead of changing who you were which is a really hard thing for high school students to do.

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  2. I’ve been with the popular people in my school when I was in the Philippines. It feels great because people knew me. But I considered that my friends were the popular not me. It does not really matter if you were popular when you were in high school because it would change when you come to college. I am glad you just focused on your studies because that is what really matters; studies.

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  3. I was pretty popular back in high school and the group I had at that time was really disrespectful to others. I isolated myself and found a better group of friends that till this day are like my brothers. Popularity is just a faze because after high school its over and no one really cares at the end whether you were popular or not.

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  4. it's good that you didn't change who you were to be one of the "cool" kids. you were true to yourself, popularity doesn't last forever and when it fades you lose your identity.

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  5. There are some people in high school who love it so much that they never grow up. What I mean by this is that there are some people, even in their late twenties try to relieve high school years because it was probably the only high point in their life. It's sad seeing people like that, some people just never want to grow up

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  6. I also thought about being in the popular group but my friends showed me otherwise. Being popular in high school doesn't really get you anywhere in life.

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  7. Now that I'm out of high school it's easier for me to see how being popular doesn't mean much. As long as you got a good group of friends to be around who cares what others think.

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  8. Im glad you didn't change yourself just to try and fit in. Changing yourself doesn't make you cool it make you fake.

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  9. To this day my friends younger sister tries to do "adventurous" things to make her life seem exciting as she is trying to be a popular high schooler. I never understood why it mattered so much to people because after high school no one even keeps in touch. I am glad you did not change yourself to fit in. You remained a wolf among sheep.

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  10. Good for you sweet heart. Keep that mentality going.

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  11. I think that popularity is something that each of us wants, and means something a little different to everyone. However, very few people are just naturally popular and if you can find something that is important to you, and people who appreciate that, I think that outweighs the importance of popularity.

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  12. I'm glad you didn't try to be someone you weren't just to fit in. always be yourself. nobody in high school stick around anyways

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  13. I agree I think popularity changes people. People do tend to forget others after high school.

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